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Take Charge of Your Anxiety

 Yes, it might surprise you but I’m going to ask anyway.

What would happen if you could control your brain and decrease your anxiety?

Without pills?

Here’s why I’m asking.

Studies have shown that the brain can be changed causing ones anxiety to decrease.

Sound too good to be true?

Keep reading.

During periods of high stress and anxiety what happens to your hands?

If you are anything like me, your hands get colder.

Right? Have you noticed?

Brain science teaches us that when under stress the blood rushes to the brain

    leaving the hands colder.

If one intentionally warms their hands by putting them in warm water

  or holding a warm cup of coffee, tea or hot chocolate

the blood goes from the brain –where it’s been working hard due to the stress-

 and returns back to the hands

reducing anxiety.

How would you feel if you could begin to reduce your anxiety?

Well, you can.

Focus on hand warming.

Some other ideas are warming hands in front of a fire, putting on warm gloves,

    holding a partner’s skin

yes, the ideas are endless

 but the principle is the same.

Warm hands draw the blood from the anxious brain away from the brain

   and back down to the hands.

There are certainly other ways to calm the limbic brain and relax your system

  such as prayer, meditation, focusing on your breathing, etc.

 but hand warming is one more overlooked practical tool that you can do.

Now. Today.

You can take charge of your stress.



Taking Charge

I know it might sound ridiculous but I’ll ask anyway.

What would happen if every time you had a worrisome thought you could just burst it

     like a balloon?

Here’s the reason I’m asking.

Life can be difficult. Problems can arise unexpectedly.

Brain science research shows that our thoughts create chemicals.

Every bad thought releases chemicals that make you feel bad.

Every good thought releases chemicals that make you feel good.

You do not need to believe every thought you have – oftentimes thoughts lie.

You have to take control.

The problem is that we usually think we have no control over our thoughts.

How would you feel, though, if you had a plan?

    A specific tool that you could use to burst those negative, anxious thoughts?

Well here’s an idea that has helped many folks.

Challenge those thoughts.

Yes, ask these questions-

    Is it true?

    Can I absolutely know it’s true?

    How do I feel when I have this thought?

    What would I be without this thought?

     Turn the thought around. Is that turnaround thought true? Is it even more true

         than the original thought?

Yes, you can learn to talk back to your thoughts.

Don’t believe every thought you have.

Burst those thought balloons by challenging them and asking those questions.

If you focus on what is true it will make all the difference in how you feel.

Sound good?

Give it a try and let me know how it goes for you.


Think on whatever is true, honorable, right, pure, excellent, good, worthy of praise-

Let your mind dwell on these things. (Philippians 4:8)

The Great Big YES

Many have written about the word they have chosen for 2017

but no word reached out and grabbed me. Nothing.

Not until —–

I was pondering one evening about many things

and talking with my daughters about life and various things.

When suddenly it came. That word. Just spring into my head and out of my mouth.


“I want to say a great big yes to what is most important

so that I can say no to all else”

Even as I said it, I felt the tears pressing behind my eyes.

Recently the sudden death of a close friend and colleague

left me thrown off balance and groping to regain stability. Life is short.

My mind wandered back to years ago when I first met the yes challenge.

Will you surrender your all to the One Who gave His all?

Chills went up and down my body as I wrestled with His Call

and for agelong moments I wrestled with surrendering my life. I was so young.

Fear, my constant companion, growing up whispered words that frightened.

What if..What if….What if…

I’ll never forget that moment when I cast my all, my one, simple, ordinary life,

into His care.

That was the beginning  for me of the greatest adventure.

Opportunities have come to do things I would certainly never have taken earlier in my life.

Chances to go places and do things.

People to meet. Careers to enjoy.

Two very old orphanages in Russia hold my heart although its been years since I’ve been there.

The hurts of wounded people touch my heart;

the longings of frustrated people

and empty souls always tug hard

and draw me to give and go and serve.

That great big YES led to a daily Yes

in which I know my life is not my own.

It’s His.

All other decisions bend their knee to Him.

I find that saying no has gradually become easier

with the main thing already decided.

I am excited about this word for 2017. YES

Yes, to His Will.

Yes, to whatever He calls. Wherever He leads.

YES. He is the loving Shepherd Who cares for His sheep

so much better than they could ever care for themselves.

Yes, to surprises and unexpecteds.

Yes, to disappointments and sorrows.

Yes, to His Purpose and Plan.

Somehow it all begins to look easier now. The confusion and clamor quiets

and the day begins to dawn.


Won’t you join me in saying Yes too?

It takes a lot of the hard out of living because it’s not up to me.

No, the journey is His Plan and I like it that way.

How about you?


You’ll never be disappointed.

Maybe it’s time to just say YES.