Category Archives: Parent Coaching

Choices Choices and More Choices

My eyes stared at all the blueberry muffins, apple muffins, chocolate chip muffins,

delicious looking scones, almond biscotti and so much more.

How could I possibly choose?

Seconds turned to minutes as I stood there.

If there had been only two or three options my choice would have been easier,

But here, faced with what seemed like a zillion choices, a sense of paralysis crept over me,

I knew each choice would be tasty

but I wanted the best, the tastiest. Perfect.

One choice.

So I stood and pondered.

Back and forth.

Life is filled with choices. Many not as simple as what breakfast item to choose.

Do I attend college? Can I afford college?

What job do I take?

Where do I live?

Do I marry? Have children? Adopt? Biological?

How do I spend my time today.

And on and on and on.

Our choices reveal who we really are.

How do I deal with the changes of Covid 19?

What is my attitude?

It all goes back to choice, doesn’t it?

When you think about it I realize that

attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Perspective is a choice.

Kindness is a choice. Respect is a choice.

And whatever our choice is…..makes us.

No, life is much more complicated than a simple breakfast choice that has little consequence

but we can learn much about the power of choice in our lives.

Our choices say much about us.

Our choices impact others.

“Choose you this day who you will serve.” Joshua 24:15

Remember that call to action by Joshua of old.

And simply to not choose is still a choice.

A choice to put faith in God and to live for Him powerfully impacts the rest of our life.

Choose carefully.

Yes, I finally chose a blueberry muffin that day and was very pleased with my choice.

I’ve also chosen to follow the Lord with all of my life and that choice is the foundation

of everything for me.

How about you?

Faced with an endless assortment of choices

what have you chosen?

Choose wisely.

Choose carefully.

Choose today.

 

Where Do You Look For Help?

Where do you look for help?

Difficulties abound. Financial disaster. Disease. Decisions.

Debates rage. Back and forth. Emotional pain.

Where do you look for help?

Politicians want us to look to them for assistance.

Doctors want us to look to them for healing.

Administrators want us to look to them for solutions.

But no matter how they try

   those sources are imperfect.

Years ago when in a tough place David penned these words.

“My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth. Indeed, he who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep. the sun will not harm you by day, nor the moon by night. the LORD will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore. Psalm 121

If we look to politicians we will be disappointed.

If we look to physicians we will be confused.

If we look to friends and family we will grow more and more frustrated.

Only God is worthy of our trust and confidence.

He knows the beginning from the end.

The Lord sees and knows the way we should take.

Our wisdom is found in crying out to Him and then waiting on Him.

Listening. Being still. Seeking His Will above all.

Where do you look for help?

My help comes from the Lord.

How about you?

 

 

Love Is Something You Do

I knew something was different within the first few seconds I was home.

Downcast eyes, one word responses, walking away.

And suddenly I was met with a choice.

I could ignore those signs that something was wrong

or I could make the time to talk. Alone.

Thankfully I made the time.

Yes, sat on her bed, asked a question and listened.

Really listened.

True. I had a lot to do.

The house needed cleaning

the dishes were dirty

and on and on and on.

But something was wrong.

I knew it and her heart needed tending now.

Again and again I’ve seen that love takes time.

Yes, it takes time to show care and to listen

 and sometimes to stay with the other

in their space.

In our fast paced zillion-things-to-do world

it’s all too easy

to brush aside those relational red flags

and think that tomorrow will do.

But sometimes

sadly, tomorrow never comes.

Love is fragile and must be handled with care.

Love is tender and hearts are easily broken.

Love is sacred and involves many, many I’m sorry moments.

But in the end

its’ worth it.

Love takes time.

Time for hearts to stay in touch.

Sure, it’s easy to send flowers, or candy or some other gift,

But to truly care

takes time and a giving of yourself.

And that’s what can be so hard.

Busy, overworked single parents,

Couples running back and forth

Many times only passing each other before the next activity.

But love cannot be rushed

and love cannot be forced.

Love will demand the very best from you

And even then it won’t be enough.

Human love is so limited.

Gives up, gets petulant. Sometimes keeps score.

But love that is from God has staying power

and the strength to keep giving and talking and

believing again

that love is eternal.

Love keeps in touch with those we love.

Reach out today,

 and ask God to help you love

with His Love.