Category Archives: Parent Coaching

Love Is Something You Do

I knew something was different within the first few seconds I was home.

Downcast eyes, one word responses, walking away.

And suddenly I was met with a choice.

I could ignore those signs that something was wrong

or I could make the time to talk. Alone.

Thankfully I made the time.

Yes, sat on her bed, asked a question and listened.

Really listened.

True. I had a lot to do.

The house needed cleaning

the dishes were dirty

and on and on and on.

But something was wrong.

I knew it and her heart needed tending now.

Again and again I’ve seen that love takes time.

Yes, it takes time to show care and to listen

 and sometimes to stay with the other

in their space.

In our fast paced zillion-things-to-do world

it’s all too easy

to brush aside those relational red flags

and think that tomorrow will do.

But sometimes

sadly, tomorrow never comes.

Love is fragile and must be handled with care.

Love is tender and hearts are easily broken.

Love is sacred and involves many, many I’m sorry moments.

But in the end

its’ worth it.

Love takes time.

Time for hearts to stay in touch.

Sure, it’s easy to send flowers, or candy or some other gift,

But to truly care

takes time and a giving of yourself.

And that’s what can be so hard.

Busy, overworked single parents,

Couples running back and forth

Many times only passing each other before the next activity.

But love cannot be rushed

and love cannot be forced.

Love will demand the very best from you

And even then it won’t be enough.

Human love is so limited.

Gives up, gets petulant. Sometimes keeps score.

But love that is from God has staying power

and the strength to keep giving and talking and

believing again

that love is eternal.

Love keeps in touch with those we love.

Reach out today,

 and ask God to help you love

with His Love.

 

 

 

 

 

Starting Strong in 2020

It tends to catch me by surprise each year-

 how suddenly Christmas is over,

 the carols are no longer heard and talk of income tax is in the air.

Although it might be easy to join the masses and stress over the lack

of energy, finances, health, relationships, etc,

 that is not our real need.

No, beneath all of those concerns

 is the need of our souls for His

Presence, His Peace and His Provision.

 Without Him, we drift in emptiness

 seeking to satisfy our aching souls

 with something.

But, in truth, He is the One Who satisfies our every need

 as we learn to depend upon Him.

 

So let’s start there first.

Ask Him to fill your soul with His Presence.

Ask Him to take control.

Ask Him to help you focus upon those things that matter most.

 

By doing that we’ll know that we are starting strong

no matter what happens.

Join me, won’t you, in taking that first step to start strong in 2020?

 

Those Left Behind

It seems like yesterday that I traveled home with my youngest daughter.

From time to time as we flew high above the earth

I glanced at her.

Tiny little two year old. Dimpled darling with deep, penetrating eyes.

And I wondered.

How would I manage to parent two daughters

along with having a counseling practice?

But when the fears loomed

my thoughts went back to my many prayers.

That long walk on the beach

seeking God’s Will…

Wanting to be sure.

From the beginning her adoption was difficult.

A failed adoption in Ukraine.

House arrest.

Fears galore.

Endless visits to orphanages.

Seeking.

Praying.

Quietly wondering.

Then arriving in Russia and seeing her for the first time.

Moments that I cherish in my heart.

So small. So serious. Soooooo …..to this day there are no words.

Suddenly having to leave her without an explanation

that I would be back.

Yes I would be back.

Asking to go to a store to purchase a stuffed bear

and running up the orphanage steps, opening the heavy doors,

and giving it to the orphanage worker.

“Please, please give this to her,” Tears filled my eyes.

“Tell her I will be back.” It was so important that she knew.

The worker nodded and I turned to leave.

A question remained in my heart.

Would she possibly remember to tell my little one.

How would I ever know?

But leave I must.

With a heavy heart I walked out that day

And was driven away.

So long ago.

So long ago.

A lump grow in my throat whenever I begin to think

To remember the journey of bringing  her home.

Love keeps giving and giving and giving.

Love seeks – pursues- wanting the best for the one loved.

But today as I pause to remember

my heart is turned to the ones I left.

Behind those orphanage doors I had to leave so many children.

Before I traveled and saw the need my heart was at peace.

But now I know the truth.

There are millions of orphaned children around the world.

Millions.

Lord, free me from indifference and help do what I can with what I have.

My heart easily stretches around the world.

My heart aches to fill the overwhelming need

of children needing loving parents of their own.

Free me, Lord, from a desire to be comfortable while others

weep tears of loneliness and pain.

Yes,  it’s too easy to forget when you don’t see the need.

But I remember and still hear the cries of little children

who deserve their own parents.

Maybe you feel you don’t have what it takes.

I understand. Neither do I.

But God has an amazing way of helping us do what might seem impossible.

And He still does.

Yes, He does.