Monthly Archives: September 2011

Discovering Your Purpose

 “What do I do?” she asked over the phone. “How do I decide?”

Her question is the question on so many hearts these days.  Knowing your purpose enables you to sort through the wealth of options and to make wise choices.

When I was a child my heart was always sensitive to the needs of others. Whether it was someone in my class at school or the neighbor down the street, I watched people and longed to reach out and help.  But it wasn’t until a few years ago that I began to see that unmistakable thread that continues to motivate my life. As a result I now experience satisfaction as a professional counselor, certified life coach and a freelance writer. Understanding my own uniqueness and strengths has enabled me to make life choices that continue to bring me so much joy.

How about you? Are you aware of how God has created you uniquely different from anyone else on earth? Have you discovered what gives you the deepest meaning and satisfaction in life?

We are all bombarded on every side by decisions. It is too easy to settle for the good and miss the most important things in life. It is too easy for one to be so busy that you miss what would give you the deepest sense of joy and satisfaction in life.

That is where having a coach makes a big difference.

A coach helps you look at where you are in life and helps you get to where you want to be. A coach teaches you skills so that you can make better decisions and develop a greater sense of purpose in your life.

For the next few days I along with several thousand others will be attending the American Association Christian Counselors World Conference in Nashville Tn. I am looking forward to learning and growing in ways that I can further help others to discover greater meaning and purpose in their lives.

So until Monday remember–


  Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.
Helen Keller


 Maybe its time for you to discover your purpose.





Seasons come and seasons go. That’s the nature of things. Fall,Winter, Spring and Summer. Each one has its own beauty. Each has something to teach us.

 At an older season than my peers I adopted a tiny six month old baby girl from Russia. She filled my world with laughter and giggles. Still does. While others were thinking about retirement I just kept mothering and working. It was that season for me. Then a few years later I adopted again. “Do you have any idea…?” I smile today remembering the words and cautions. I certainly knew my age and the season. My heart continues to weep for the needs of the orphans who wait. Gratitude fills my soul knowing that I am doing what I can do in each season of my life.

 During the season of parenting I stayed close to my girls. It was never a sacrifice but a joy to give them that security. Possible trips would come and go but unless we could all be together I did not go. Until now..

Today my oldest daughter shines with a beauty of character and a heart of compassion. At eighteen she is fully capable of stepping into my shoes and taking over the reins.

“Go, Mom,” she encouraged knowing about the upcoming possibility. I looked into her big brown eyes and checked the almost automatic ‘no’.

“Really, don’t miss this,” she insisted.

A change in seasons?  Could it be?

I looked at her and at her eleven year old sister. Yes, it would be a good opportunity for them. It was time.

Time for me to launch out into the sea of learning and new friendships. Time to grow.

And for my gals. A time to hold down the fort, so to speak. A time to grow even more.

Every season has it’s own unique beauty. I will always remember with joy the times of nurturing my little ones.  But it is time to embrace the new season and watch my girls grow into womanhood. As they cheer for me I am cheering loudly for them.

“He who began a good work in you will continue to do it until He comes, (Phil 1:6)

Yes, every season has its own beauty. Are you experiencing the beauty of your season right now? If not, ask yourself why not.  Don’t miss the season.





More About Little Things

Pay attention to the little things.

Life has taught me the importance of not only the power of little things but also the great damage that can result from one little thing.

 Ignoring something cooking on the grill for just a little  time can cause a fire which destroys the homes of many.

A small leak caused my water bill to skyrocket in one month. A little thing.

A small hole when ignored becomes a big hole sometimes beyond repair.

The slight lift of an eyebrow can cause great pain. A sarcastic tone of voice. An unreturned email.  Withholding doing something good.

All of these are seemingly little things that can cause great pain and have long-lasting results.

Let’s pay attention to the little things.

In our world which quickly rushes from one season to another, from one activity to another, it is all too easy to not even realize the pain we cause by some seemingly little things.

Yes, there is power in small things. Power for good but also power to inflict harm.

 Life is too short to ignore the little things. Something may be calling for your attention today.  Transformation begins when we not only see the need but also take the steps to change.

 Let’s pay attention to those little things. Won’t you join me?