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Looking For Confidence?

Confidence? How can you possibly have confidence in a world that can crumble unexpectedly?

It might seem completely illogical but having confidence is not only possible but necessary.

For without confidence we become dependent on circumstances, feelings, politics, etc.

Always changing.

Up and down. And sometimes way down.

But a confidence that doesn’t change with changing circumstances

must be based on something unchanging.

What in your life is unchanging?

For me, it is God – the One Who loves and keeps working to draw us to a saving knowledge of Himself.

The One Who is there when everything goes wrong.

The One Who held me steady as a opened my business doors in 1999

    and wondered if anyone would come.

After teaching school for over 20 years I went back to school and studied to become a counselor-

   always longing to help others.

But just having a license didn’t give me confidence.

No, I remember sitting in my room waiting for that phone to ring –

    waiting for someone whom I could serve.

In those early days the wait was very hard. I had a little one to support. God knew the pressure I felt.

Where did my confidence lie?

Not in myself. I knew that I was and am fallible.

Not in my abilities. No, I was just a counselor in the making. Still becoming. Still am.

My confidence came in the One Who had walked with me through every college course I’d taken,

    through every long night of studying, through each hurdle that I had jumped to get to this point.

I knew that He had called me to serve Him.

I just didn’t know how long it would take to build a practice.

Slowly one person called. And then another. And then the phone began ringing more frequently.

I was so excited to meet with each person who came to see me.

It was a holy calling.

Today as I serve Him as a coach for women – helping them increase their confidence,

    and develop clarity and grow courage-

I’m grateful for those hard lessons in confidence building that I experienced.

They hold me steady when nothing seems to be happening in my life now.

They keep me grounded when discouragement could easily overcome me.

But feelings can lie. Circumstances can confuse.

But the One Who is the same yesterday, today and forever calls us to keep our focus on Him.

Believe that what He called you to do 

     is still there.

Believe in Him and trust that He has equipped you. Fully.

Weary mother—He will give you all that you need.

Busy working mom- He will strengthen you one day at a time.

Grieving widow- He knows your every need and has already planned to provide for all your needs.

Single woman – He knows your deepest longings and desires. Let Him hold your heart in His.

Our beliefs give us a filter through which to see everything.

Recheck your beliefs. What is your mindset?

Confidence comes as one day at a time we trust Him and receive from Him all that we need.

Confidence- let’s grow your confidence strong.

A confidence that can face any storm in life because you know who is right with you through it all.

Now that’s a confidence that’s worth having.

Truly my soul finds rest in God;
    my salvation comes from Him.
Truly He is my rock and my salvation;
    He is my fortress, I will never be shaken. Psalm 62:1,2

Want Confidence?

So what do you think?

Is it possible to grow in confidence?

To really change?

Many folks will tell you yes and share stories of how they are different today.

How did they do it? Well let me share with you one way.

Visualization.

Hm, that’s a big word but it’s easy to understand.

Begin to picture yourself as you’d like to be.

Yes, get a clear idea, for instance, of how you see yourself confident and full of courage.

Smile. That’s quite a picture isn’t it?

Years, many years ago, I ran for Student Council Treasurer in high school.

At the time I was very quiet and didn’t want any attention but I did want to serve my high school class.

I did want to be available to help others.

But to get the office

    I had to win a school election.

That involved giving a speech to the whole school.

Dear me, I remember even today my overwhelming fears as I practiced and practiced that speech.

But in addition to going over the words I also imagined myself winning.

Yes, as I prayed, I began to see myself hearing that I had won and taking my place with others I looked up to.

I saw myself giving that speech with heart and pouring myself into the delivery.

I saw myself even to the colors I dressed in that day.

Somehow that visualization worked in a powerful way.

Seeing myself as successful worked far better than seeing myself as a failure.

And yes, I won. But the real win was in discovering that when God calls you to do something

He Himself enables you to do it.

He is your Strength within.

Visualize yourself performing that very thing that causes you to be afraid.

Visualize yourself succeeding.

As you pray give it all to the One Who loves you.

Speak words of truth and confidence to yourself.

Trust Him and He will bring it to pass.

 

Being confident of this very thing, that He which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ. Philippians 1:6

Shining Moments

The cool wind whips around the corner causing

me to pull my jacket closer.

Just a few more weeks of winter.

Glancing down I notice my blooming daffodils.

Backs straighter than yesterday. Wide open smiles.

Laughing daffodils, I think.

Amidst the changing weather

they’ve continued to grow and change.

Sometimes that change is beneath the surface

hidden from sight.

Other times I can almost see the lengthening stems

and flowers opening before my eyes.

We, too, are changing as we journey through life.

But are we growing?

Are there ways that we can tell that we actually growing?

Is our spirit still open and alive

embracing life fully?

Is our mind hungry to learn more –

reading and exposing ourselves to new ideas.

Are we lifelong learners continuing to stretch forward

to explore the ‘much more’ that the Lord has for us?

Are we pressing onward to know Him more deeply?

Are we drawing closer in our relationships

seeing each person as one created in His image

to love and value?

Are we becoming better at stooping to wash the feet of another?

Are we choosing to spend time with a child in play?

Are we learning the mystery of prayer

and delighting in speaking with Him about everything and anything?

Learning and growing

seeking and knowing

lifting our heads towards Him

in the midst of oftentimes difficult circumstances

like my yellow daffodils.

Resting in His Goodness

no matter what the circumstances.

Discovering what life is really about.

Thanking Him for life

that He gives life

and that He IS life.

His life in us.