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Moving? Again?

From as far back as I can remember

I haven’t liked change.

Oh, I know that change is a part of life

but change for changes sake — count me out.

Time after time growing up I experienced

 that unexpected

  gut-wrenching pain of moving.

“Sharon, we are moving the end of the month. You’re last day in school will be _____.”

Gulp.

Again and again I had to say good- by to my schoolmates

to head off in another direction.

Even though after a while I should have gotten used to it

I never did.

Probably my hardest move was right before going into sixth grade.

Owego, NY.

I didn’t want to move there and didn’t want to leave there 12 years later.

Smile.

But let me tell you how my stay there began.

We lived out of a motel for the first few weeks

waiting to find a home.

Yes, got on the bus in the morning and was dropped off at the motel in the afternoon.

All 5 of us. In one room. For weeks.

But that all came to an end when we moved into the house on the big curve.

Trains shaking my bed in the middle of the night.

Blowing the horn so I thought the world was coming to an end.

Change can be so hard.

But in time. Yes, after months and years I discovered in Owego – my home.

I made friends and enjoyed high school so very much.

Precious memories that I would have missed if I hadn’t moved.

It’s so often true, isn’t it, that the change we resist or simply dislike

can be filled with new possibilities if we just trust the Lord.

And give ourselves time. And plenty of grace.

A healing time. Time to adjust. Time to refocus.

Remember we can trust Him with the changes.

We can look for His presence when all around is different.

We can look up and choose to believe

in bright tomorrows

and new songs.

Draw near to Him and He will draw near to you.

So let God work His will in you. Yell a loud no to the Devil and watch him scamper. Say a quiet yes to God and He’ll be there in no time. Quit dabbling in sin. Purify your inner life. Quit playing the field. Hit bottom, and cry your eyes out. The fun and games are over. Get serious, really serious. Get down on your knees before the Master; it’s the only way you’ll get on your feet. James 4:8 The Message

So if you are facing a transition right now

please know that I care and that there are tools to learn and skills to develop

that will make any change easier.

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Taking Fear Out Of Transitions

Transitions. Some can be so difficult.

Others- not so much.

But change can throw us off balance, threaten our securities and stir inner doubts and fears…

When I think back to all of the transitions I have experienced –

single to married

married to divorced

divorced to parent

parent to small business owner

small business owner to parent of two

parent of two to caregiving for a parent

and on and on and on

So many changes.

So many adjustments

but in all

I had just when I needed to make it through.

Because He is Enough.

Yes, I often doubted my own abilities but I clung to Him.

Literally on my knees, tears a-streaming,

begging Him for wisdom and strength.

And I can honestly say

He heard and answered all my prayers –

one day at a time.

I didn’t sink.

  And neither will you.

I didn’t give up.

  Never give up.

God gave me enough for every day.

And in addition He taught me so much,

So much about Himself and His ability to carry us.

How He makes us to thrive in tough, tough places.

How He does the impossible in our lives when we are open to believing before we see.

Yes, there is so much that I could say.

But if you are facing a time of transition today

be encouraged.

There is a way.

There is a hope.

There is One Who will be there for you too.

 

Looking For Confidence?

Confidence? How can you possibly have confidence in a world that can crumble unexpectedly?

It might seem completely illogical but having confidence is not only possible but necessary.

For without confidence we become dependent on circumstances, feelings, politics, etc.

Always changing.

Up and down. And sometimes way down.

But a confidence that doesn’t change with changing circumstances

must be based on something unchanging.

What in your life is unchanging?

For me, it is God – the One Who loves and keeps working to draw us to a saving knowledge of Himself.

The One Who is there when everything goes wrong.

The One Who held me steady as a opened my business doors in 1999

    and wondered if anyone would come.

After teaching school for over 20 years I went back to school and studied to become a counselor-

   always longing to help others.

But just having a license didn’t give me confidence.

No, I remember sitting in my room waiting for that phone to ring –

    waiting for someone whom I could serve.

In those early days the wait was very hard. I had a little one to support. God knew the pressure I felt.

Where did my confidence lie?

Not in myself. I knew that I was and am fallible.

Not in my abilities. No, I was just a counselor in the making. Still becoming. Still am.

My confidence came in the One Who had walked with me through every college course I’d taken,

    through every long night of studying, through each hurdle that I had jumped to get to this point.

I knew that He had called me to serve Him.

I just didn’t know how long it would take to build a practice.

Slowly one person called. And then another. And then the phone began ringing more frequently.

I was so excited to meet with each person who came to see me.

It was a holy calling.

Today as I serve Him as a coach for women – helping them increase their confidence,

    and develop clarity and grow courage-

I’m grateful for those hard lessons in confidence building that I experienced.

They hold me steady when nothing seems to be happening in my life now.

They keep me grounded when discouragement could easily overcome me.

But feelings can lie. Circumstances can confuse.

But the One Who is the same yesterday, today and forever calls us to keep our focus on Him.

Believe that what He called you to do 

     is still there.

Believe in Him and trust that He has equipped you. Fully.

Weary mother—He will give you all that you need.

Busy working mom- He will strengthen you one day at a time.

Grieving widow- He knows your every need and has already planned to provide for all your needs.

Single woman – He knows your deepest longings and desires. Let Him hold your heart in His.

Our beliefs give us a filter through which to see everything.

Recheck your beliefs. What is your mindset?

Confidence comes as one day at a time we trust Him and receive from Him all that we need.

Confidence- let’s grow your confidence strong.

A confidence that can face any storm in life because you know who is right with you through it all.

Now that’s a confidence that’s worth having.

Truly my soul finds rest in God;
    my salvation comes from Him.
Truly He is my rock and my salvation;
    He is my fortress, I will never be shaken. Psalm 62:1,2