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Taking Fear Out Of Transitions

Transitions. Some can be so difficult.

Others- not so much.

But change can throw us off balance, threaten our securities and stir inner doubts and fears…

When I think back to all of the transitions I have experienced –

single to married

married to divorced

divorced to parent

parent to small business owner

small business owner to parent of two

parent of two to caregiving for a parent

and on and on and on

So many changes.

So many adjustments

but in all

I had just when I needed to make it through.

Because He is Enough.

Yes, I often doubted my own abilities but I clung to Him.

Literally on my knees, tears a-streaming,

begging Him for wisdom and strength.

And I can honestly say

He heard and answered all my prayers –

one day at a time.

I didn’t sink.

  And neither will you.

I didn’t give up.

  Never give up.

God gave me enough for every day.

And in addition He taught me so much,

So much about Himself and His ability to carry us.

How He makes us to thrive in tough, tough places.

How He does the impossible in our lives when we are open to believing before we see.

Yes, there is so much that I could say.

But if you are facing a time of transition today

be encouraged.

There is a way.

There is a hope.

There is One Who will be there for you too.

 

Looking For Confidence?

Confidence? How can you possibly have confidence in a world that can crumble unexpectedly?

It might seem completely illogical but having confidence is not only possible but necessary.

For without confidence we become dependent on circumstances, feelings, politics, etc.

Always changing.

Up and down. And sometimes way down.

But a confidence that doesn’t change with changing circumstances

must be based on something unchanging.

What in your life is unchanging?

For me, it is God – the One Who loves and keeps working to draw us to a saving knowledge of Himself.

The One Who is there when everything goes wrong.

The One Who held me steady as a opened my business doors in 1999

    and wondered if anyone would come.

After teaching school for over 20 years I went back to school and studied to become a counselor-

   always longing to help others.

But just having a license didn’t give me confidence.

No, I remember sitting in my room waiting for that phone to ring –

    waiting for someone whom I could serve.

In those early days the wait was very hard. I had a little one to support. God knew the pressure I felt.

Where did my confidence lie?

Not in myself. I knew that I was and am fallible.

Not in my abilities. No, I was just a counselor in the making. Still becoming. Still am.

My confidence came in the One Who had walked with me through every college course I’d taken,

    through every long night of studying, through each hurdle that I had jumped to get to this point.

I knew that He had called me to serve Him.

I just didn’t know how long it would take to build a practice.

Slowly one person called. And then another. And then the phone began ringing more frequently.

I was so excited to meet with each person who came to see me.

It was a holy calling.

Today as I serve Him as a coach for women – helping them increase their confidence,

    and develop clarity and grow courage-

I’m grateful for those hard lessons in confidence building that I experienced.

They hold me steady when nothing seems to be happening in my life now.

They keep me grounded when discouragement could easily overcome me.

But feelings can lie. Circumstances can confuse.

But the One Who is the same yesterday, today and forever calls us to keep our focus on Him.

Believe that what He called you to do 

     is still there.

Believe in Him and trust that He has equipped you. Fully.

Weary mother—He will give you all that you need.

Busy working mom- He will strengthen you one day at a time.

Grieving widow- He knows your every need and has already planned to provide for all your needs.

Single woman – He knows your deepest longings and desires. Let Him hold your heart in His.

Our beliefs give us a filter through which to see everything.

Recheck your beliefs. What is your mindset?

Confidence comes as one day at a time we trust Him and receive from Him all that we need.

Confidence- let’s grow your confidence strong.

A confidence that can face any storm in life because you know who is right with you through it all.

Now that’s a confidence that’s worth having.

Truly my soul finds rest in God;
    my salvation comes from Him.
Truly He is my rock and my salvation;
    He is my fortress, I will never be shaken. Psalm 62:1,2

Wow- A New Way to Win

It might sound way too simple but I’ll ask you anyway.

What is one thing that you can do to boost your positive emotions, block fear and change your brain?

It’s almost too good to be true but research shows its effectiveness. Every time.

Are you ready for the answer? Gratitude.

Yes, being grateful. Intentionally.

Gratitude is an antidote to fear.

Fear focuses on all things that could go wrong.

But gratitude focuses on all the things that have gone right.

And when our gratitude is focused on all God’s blessings and provision

    we then have a powerful supply of gratitude.

Fear places us in a shaky position of insecurity.

But gratitude places on in a stable position of thankfulness.

You can’t be fearful and grateful at the same time.

It just doesn’t work.

So when facing a situation that causes you to begin to fear and grow anxious,

   take charge of your life.

  Change your thoughts and you’ll change your life.

Think – gratitude. What are you thankful for?

Stay with that thought. Are there more things you are thankful for?

  How else are you blessed?

See, the more we intentionally focus on those blessings, our brain changes.

Research shows that focusing on gratitude actually changes the molecular structure of our brain

   and makes us healthier and happier.

Isn’t that amazing?

Fear causes confusion.

Gratitude causes peace and a sense of well being.

Write a letter of gratitude to someone and that starts the healing process.

No longer do you need to feel helpless and out of control.

Gratitude therapy works.

And finally, don’t be discouraged if at first you find this difficult to do. Habits are formed by taking new small steps and doing it again and again.

Want to join the Gratitude Club?  It will change your life.

 

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7 NIV