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Can We Please Fast Forward This Change?

Have you ever wanted to fast forward through change

just to get it over with?

It often seems like the day to day change is almost more painful.

Years ago I changed careers.

After over twenty some years as a first grade teacher

I was moved by my awareness that my students were

getting older.

Married.

Raising children of their own.

They knew how to read and write but didn’t know how to have

a healthy relationship.

So I went back to school and studied hard

finally opening the doors to my private counseling practice.

I will never forget those days of waiting for the phone to ring.

Looking at an empty appointment book

Just longing for someone to call.

Change can be so hard.

Whereas in the past every year I was given a class of boys and girls

now I had to make my services known. And wait to serve.

I had to depend upon the Lord completely

and I sure did. But it was never easy.

Then there were the times I’d go to church or downtown

and someone would mention that I needed to be back in teaching,

or I had missed my true calling,

or imply that they knew best.

Sometimes I would try to respond graciously that I’m still a teacher.

Other times I’d just say something to get out of that situation.

But the truth was the change was hard for me as well as others.

We are more than what we do or where we live

Or our marital status

Or how many children we have.

Those all are aspects of our lives but life is filled with change.

Part of the transition is grieving our losses

and embracing the new.

Some of you reading this might be going through a transition right now.

Take time to grieve your losses

but also see the positives in today.

Praise the One Who is Lord of all of your life –

The past. The present. And the future.

Let Him lead you as you follow Him

through all the twists and turns of life.

Yes, through all the belly-flopping moments

where you wonder if you will ever be ok.

The Shepherd will provide for all of your needs

each step of the way.

Tenderly. Carefully. Ever so personally.

Lean upon Him and He will carry you through.

 

Psalm 23    The Lord IS my Shepherd

Moving? Again?

From as far back as I can remember

I haven’t liked change.

Oh, I know that change is a part of life

but change for changes sake — count me out.

Time after time growing up I experienced

 that unexpected

  gut-wrenching pain of moving.

“Sharon, we are moving the end of the month. You’re last day in school will be _____.”

Gulp.

Again and again I had to say good- by to my schoolmates

to head off in another direction.

Even though after a while I should have gotten used to it

I never did.

Probably my hardest move was right before going into sixth grade.

Owego, NY.

I didn’t want to move there and didn’t want to leave there 12 years later.

Smile.

But let me tell you how my stay there began.

We lived out of a motel for the first few weeks

waiting to find a home.

Yes, got on the bus in the morning and was dropped off at the motel in the afternoon.

All 5 of us. In one room. For weeks.

But that all came to an end when we moved into the house on the big curve.

Trains shaking my bed in the middle of the night.

Blowing the horn so I thought the world was coming to an end.

Change can be so hard.

But in time. Yes, after months and years I discovered in Owego – my home.

I made friends and enjoyed high school so very much.

Precious memories that I would have missed if I hadn’t moved.

It’s so often true, isn’t it, that the change we resist or simply dislike

can be filled with new possibilities if we just trust the Lord.

And give ourselves time. And plenty of grace.

A healing time. Time to adjust. Time to refocus.

Remember we can trust Him with the changes.

We can look for His presence when all around is different.

We can look up and choose to believe

in bright tomorrows

and new songs.

Draw near to Him and He will draw near to you.

So let God work His will in you. Yell a loud no to the Devil and watch him scamper. Say a quiet yes to God and He’ll be there in no time. Quit dabbling in sin. Purify your inner life. Quit playing the field. Hit bottom, and cry your eyes out. The fun and games are over. Get serious, really serious. Get down on your knees before the Master; it’s the only way you’ll get on your feet. James 4:8 The Message

So if you are facing a transition right now

please know that I care and that there are tools to learn and skills to develop

that will make any change easier.

Contact me at [email protected]

Taking Fear Out Of Transitions

Transitions. Some can be so difficult.

Others- not so much.

But change can throw us off balance, threaten our securities and stir inner doubts and fears…

When I think back to all of the transitions I have experienced –

single to married

married to divorced

divorced to parent

parent to small business owner

small business owner to parent of two

parent of two to caregiving for a parent

and on and on and on

So many changes.

So many adjustments

but in all

I had just when I needed to make it through.

Because He is Enough.

Yes, I often doubted my own abilities but I clung to Him.

Literally on my knees, tears a-streaming,

begging Him for wisdom and strength.

And I can honestly say

He heard and answered all my prayers –

one day at a time.

I didn’t sink.

  And neither will you.

I didn’t give up.

  Never give up.

God gave me enough for every day.

And in addition He taught me so much,

So much about Himself and His ability to carry us.

How He makes us to thrive in tough, tough places.

How He does the impossible in our lives when we are open to believing before we see.

Yes, there is so much that I could say.

But if you are facing a time of transition today

be encouraged.

There is a way.

There is a hope.

There is One Who will be there for you too.