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Looking For Confidence?

Confidence? How can you possibly have confidence in a world that can crumble unexpectedly?

It might seem completely illogical but having confidence is not only possible but necessary.

For without confidence we become dependent on circumstances, feelings, politics, etc.

Always changing.

Up and down. And sometimes way down.

But a confidence that doesn’t change with changing circumstances

must be based on something unchanging.

What in your life is unchanging?

For me, it is God – the One Who loves and keeps working to draw us to a saving knowledge of Himself.

The One Who is there when everything goes wrong.

The One Who held me steady as a opened my business doors in 1999

    and wondered if anyone would come.

After teaching school for over 20 years I went back to school and studied to become a counselor-

   always longing to help others.

But just having a license didn’t give me confidence.

No, I remember sitting in my room waiting for that phone to ring –

    waiting for someone whom I could serve.

In those early days the wait was very hard. I had a little one to support. God knew the pressure I felt.

Where did my confidence lie?

Not in myself. I knew that I was and am fallible.

Not in my abilities. No, I was just a counselor in the making. Still becoming. Still am.

My confidence came in the One Who had walked with me through every college course I’d taken,

    through every long night of studying, through each hurdle that I had jumped to get to this point.

I knew that He had called me to serve Him.

I just didn’t know how long it would take to build a practice.

Slowly one person called. And then another. And then the phone began ringing more frequently.

I was so excited to meet with each person who came to see me.

It was a holy calling.

Today as I serve Him as a coach for women – helping them increase their confidence,

    and develop clarity and grow courage-

I’m grateful for those hard lessons in confidence building that I experienced.

They hold me steady when nothing seems to be happening in my life now.

They keep me grounded when discouragement could easily overcome me.

But feelings can lie. Circumstances can confuse.

But the One Who is the same yesterday, today and forever calls us to keep our focus on Him.

Believe that what He called you to do 

     is still there.

Believe in Him and trust that He has equipped you. Fully.

Weary mother—He will give you all that you need.

Busy working mom- He will strengthen you one day at a time.

Grieving widow- He knows your every need and has already planned to provide for all your needs.

Single woman – He knows your deepest longings and desires. Let Him hold your heart in His.

Our beliefs give us a filter through which to see everything.

Recheck your beliefs. What is your mindset?

Confidence comes as one day at a time we trust Him and receive from Him all that we need.

Confidence- let’s grow your confidence strong.

A confidence that can face any storm in life because you know who is right with you through it all.

Now that’s a confidence that’s worth having.

Truly my soul finds rest in God;
    my salvation comes from Him.
Truly He is my rock and my salvation;
    He is my fortress, I will never be shaken. Psalm 62:1,2

Want Confidence?

So what do you think?

Is it possible to grow in confidence?

To really change?

Many folks will tell you yes and share stories of how they are different today.

How did they do it? Well let me share with you one way.

Visualization.

Hm, that’s a big word but it’s easy to understand.

Begin to picture yourself as you’d like to be.

Yes, get a clear idea, for instance, of how you see yourself confident and full of courage.

Smile. That’s quite a picture isn’t it?

Years, many years ago, I ran for Student Council Treasurer in high school.

At the time I was very quiet and didn’t want any attention but I did want to serve my high school class.

I did want to be available to help others.

But to get the office

    I had to win a school election.

That involved giving a speech to the whole school.

Dear me, I remember even today my overwhelming fears as I practiced and practiced that speech.

But in addition to going over the words I also imagined myself winning.

Yes, as I prayed, I began to see myself hearing that I had won and taking my place with others I looked up to.

I saw myself giving that speech with heart and pouring myself into the delivery.

I saw myself even to the colors I dressed in that day.

Somehow that visualization worked in a powerful way.

Seeing myself as successful worked far better than seeing myself as a failure.

And yes, I won. But the real win was in discovering that when God calls you to do something

He Himself enables you to do it.

He is your Strength within.

Visualize yourself performing that very thing that causes you to be afraid.

Visualize yourself succeeding.

As you pray give it all to the One Who loves you.

Speak words of truth and confidence to yourself.

Trust Him and He will bring it to pass.

 

Being confident of this very thing, that He which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ. Philippians 1:6

The Perils of Hurry

I got up early, reached for my list and quickly scanned the items

wondering how in the world I would get it all done. Sigh.

Reaching for a cup of freshly made coffee

I sank down into the comfortable chair –

the one that I sit in to have my Quiet Time.

Flipping the pages, I turned to the reading for the day

but inside my mind was still racing –

already thinking about all that needed to be accomplished.

As my eyes read over the verses –

verses cherished —

I found my mind wandering back to that long to do list.

Pulling my thoughts back again, I saw those words.

Words I’ve read many, many times before.

“In quietness and confidence shall be your strength.” (Isaiah 30:15 NKJV)

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if I had some quietness today?  I mused.

But no way for me.

No, my life is too busy.

Sigh.

But the strangest thing happened as I closed my Bible and began to pray.

It was as if I sensed Him looking at me and saying, “Why not?”

Really, I thought. Could I possibly eliminate some of the hurry from my life?

Me? A single parent. Working full time.

How ridiculous is that!

But just as quickly I began to wonder.

Had I begun to make excuses for my busyness?

Had I joined in the hurry sickness of our day?

Was I allowing it rather than disciplining my own life?

Throughout the rest of the day and the days that followed

I realized that I needed to

Unhook

Disconnect

Say no

And play more.

Without realizing it I had allowed the tyranny of the urgent

to creep into my life

causing me to be overstressed and overcommitted.

As a result I was not living in the strength He wanted me to have.

I wasn’t victorious in ways He intended for me to be.

That realization was like a huge light coming on.

Only I could change it.

And change it I would.

Over time I began to manage time better and with wisdom.

More time for retreats and less rushing.

Instead of living life to the max

I began to build in margin and allow time for simply doing nothing.

Instantly my creativity began to increase and I slept better.

Quickly I noticed a slowing within and my soul becoming filled.

It’s a change that I’ve continued to work on –

The press of living around us is something none of us can completely escape

But those words reminding me of the importance of quiet have become like

markers in the sand.

He has promised to supply all of our needs —

Our need for rest,

Our need for strength

Our need for wisdom

We must choose to live intentionally.

One day at a time.

Yes, as we depend upon Him to guide our days

And rest in His pace

We, too, can learn to live in quiet and confidence.

Join me, won’t you?