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Can We Please Fast Forward This Change?

Have you ever wanted to fast forward through change

just to get it over with?

It often seems like the day to day change is almost more painful.

Years ago I changed careers.

After over twenty some years as a first grade teacher

I was moved by my awareness that my students were

getting older.

Married.

Raising children of their own.

They knew how to read and write but didn’t know how to have

a healthy relationship.

So I went back to school and studied hard

finally opening the doors to my private counseling practice.

I will never forget those days of waiting for the phone to ring.

Looking at an empty appointment book

Just longing for someone to call.

Change can be so hard.

Whereas in the past every year I was given a class of boys and girls

now I had to make my services known. And wait to serve.

I had to depend upon the Lord completely

and I sure did. But it was never easy.

Then there were the times I’d go to church or downtown

and someone would mention that I needed to be back in teaching,

or I had missed my true calling,

or imply that they knew best.

Sometimes I would try to respond graciously that I’m still a teacher.

Other times I’d just say something to get out of that situation.

But the truth was the change was hard for me as well as others.

We are more than what we do or where we live

Or our marital status

Or how many children we have.

Those all are aspects of our lives but life is filled with change.

Part of the transition is grieving our losses

and embracing the new.

Some of you reading this might be going through a transition right now.

Take time to grieve your losses

but also see the positives in today.

Praise the One Who is Lord of all of your life –

The past. The present. And the future.

Let Him lead you as you follow Him

through all the twists and turns of life.

Yes, through all the belly-flopping moments

where you wonder if you will ever be ok.

The Shepherd will provide for all of your needs

each step of the way.

Tenderly. Carefully. Ever so personally.

Lean upon Him and He will carry you through.

 

Psalm 23    The Lord IS my Shepherd

Sometimes It Hurts

Every change involves letting go of what has been

to embrace the new.

Now I don’t know about you but that’s sometimes been a process for me.

Letting go of the beautiful pink flowered bedroom in Kansas City

for the ugly yellow bedroom in Owego.

But it didn’t take me long to get it repainted.

Saying good bye to one career to start another.

Memories of that long walk down the school hall one day

a few years ago.

Lump in my throat. Tears stinging my eyes.

Alone.

The only sound – that of my high heels on the floor.

The end of a most enjoyable season of my life.

Yes.

Sigh.

To start building a small private counseling practice.

Something I had no background in.

But to do it I had to be all in.

Invested.

Committed to helping the people I served.

Letting go of the comfortable and familiar to embrace the strange and the new.

Every change involves letting go of what has been to take hold of the new.

Not easy.

Many times involving a season of grieving.

Although I had prayed and thought it through

the selling of my beloved white cape cod house

to move a long way away

was very difficult.

The actual time of signing the papers and pulling that door closed the last time

was painfully  hard.

But through it all God was there.

He smooths the rough places and gives strength to the weary.

He leads us gently from one place to the next.

From one season of life to another one.

There’s a time to let go

And a time to embrace.

  There’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth:..A right time to hold on and another to let go. Ecclesiastes 3:1,2 Msg

Like a child clinging to his favorite toy

I’ve sometimes been guilty of clinging tightly to what I’ve had and enjoyed

so tightly that it was hard to imagine ever feeling at peace again.

But the truth is I eventually was.

Each season has its own color, its own fragrance, its own song.

Let God have that cherish toy you are grasping to yourself

and trust Him to provide for your next season of life too

He will not fail you. He understands.

Every change involves letting go of what has been

to embrace the new.

Don’t miss the new because of fear of change.

Place your hand in His Big Loving Hand.

He is Faithful.

 

Moving? Again?

From as far back as I can remember

I haven’t liked change.

Oh, I know that change is a part of life

but change for changes sake — count me out.

Time after time growing up I experienced

 that unexpected

  gut-wrenching pain of moving.

“Sharon, we are moving the end of the month. You’re last day in school will be _____.”

Gulp.

Again and again I had to say good- by to my schoolmates

to head off in another direction.

Even though after a while I should have gotten used to it

I never did.

Probably my hardest move was right before going into sixth grade.

Owego, NY.

I didn’t want to move there and didn’t want to leave there 12 years later.

Smile.

But let me tell you how my stay there began.

We lived out of a motel for the first few weeks

waiting to find a home.

Yes, got on the bus in the morning and was dropped off at the motel in the afternoon.

All 5 of us. In one room. For weeks.

But that all came to an end when we moved into the house on the big curve.

Trains shaking my bed in the middle of the night.

Blowing the horn so I thought the world was coming to an end.

Change can be so hard.

But in time. Yes, after months and years I discovered in Owego – my home.

I made friends and enjoyed high school so very much.

Precious memories that I would have missed if I hadn’t moved.

It’s so often true, isn’t it, that the change we resist or simply dislike

can be filled with new possibilities if we just trust the Lord.

And give ourselves time. And plenty of grace.

A healing time. Time to adjust. Time to refocus.

Remember we can trust Him with the changes.

We can look for His presence when all around is different.

We can look up and choose to believe

in bright tomorrows

and new songs.

Draw near to Him and He will draw near to you.

So let God work His will in you. Yell a loud no to the Devil and watch him scamper. Say a quiet yes to God and He’ll be there in no time. Quit dabbling in sin. Purify your inner life. Quit playing the field. Hit bottom, and cry your eyes out. The fun and games are over. Get serious, really serious. Get down on your knees before the Master; it’s the only way you’ll get on your feet. James 4:8 The Message

So if you are facing a transition right now

please know that I care and that there are tools to learn and skills to develop

that will make any change easier.

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