Category Archives: Parent Coaching

It’s Your Turn Now

 

March Madness has brought lots of hooping and hollering at our home.

Yay UVA!

Holding our breath- cheering them on.

But it’s easy to watch the teams play. From the comfort of my home.

Sitting on the couch. Groaning at times.

But I knew it took a lot of skill and practice to bring them to that place.

Lots of skills.

It’s one thing to know that but another thing to shoot hoops yourself.

This morning my daughter and I went out and threw basketballs.

I won’t tell you how many years since I’ve tried to make a basket.

But let’s just say it’s been a few years.

It  took me back to high school gym class when I loved getting a basket.

 Get the basket in view and shoot it. Easy. Not at all.

Smile. Well today I started out tentative.

Stretching to make a basket.

Trying again and again.

Aware that what I’d been seeing on TV during the playoffs

Was much harder- much harder than it looked.

I was thrilled when I finally got a basket.

Overjoyed. Not by skill but I think just luck.

Back and forth we played

 getting better as time went by.

Oh, not real good but better.

A few went in and some didn’t make it.

Easier to watch than to play.

Its true, isn’t it?

It’s all too easy to critique from the couch- whether it’s basketball, or a speaker, or musician.

But when we step up and move in to actually do it ourselves

we are suddenly faced with the challenges.

Practice is important. Having a coach makes a huge difference.

I don’t know about you but I loved shooting hoops today.

I came away invigorated and alive and have already planned to go back.

But more than the fun of playing today

I came aware with a fresh sense of how much skill it takes to play

a whole game

with other players all around you

to get a rebound

to steal the ball

to keep focused.

And my admiration for the basketball players is high.

What about you?

Maybe it’s time to shoot a few hoops,

or try something you might not have done for a while

if ever.

Step out of your comfort zone and stretch.

You just might come away with a new appreciation for what others do too.

Let’s be doers – not critical spectators.

Working to understand and encourage.

 

Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you are a listener when you are anything but, letting the Word go in one ear and out the other. Act on what you hear! Those who hear and don’t act are like those who glance in the mirror, walk away, and two minutes later have no idea who they are, what they look like. James 1:22-25 Message

 

Moving? Again?

From as far back as I can remember

I haven’t liked change.

Oh, I know that change is a part of life

but change for changes sake — count me out.

Time after time growing up I experienced

 that unexpected

  gut-wrenching pain of moving.

“Sharon, we are moving the end of the month. You’re last day in school will be _____.”

Gulp.

Again and again I had to say good- by to my schoolmates

to head off in another direction.

Even though after a while I should have gotten used to it

I never did.

Probably my hardest move was right before going into sixth grade.

Owego, NY.

I didn’t want to move there and didn’t want to leave there 12 years later.

Smile.

But let me tell you how my stay there began.

We lived out of a motel for the first few weeks

waiting to find a home.

Yes, got on the bus in the morning and was dropped off at the motel in the afternoon.

All 5 of us. In one room. For weeks.

But that all came to an end when we moved into the house on the big curve.

Trains shaking my bed in the middle of the night.

Blowing the horn so I thought the world was coming to an end.

Change can be so hard.

But in time. Yes, after months and years I discovered in Owego – my home.

I made friends and enjoyed high school so very much.

Precious memories that I would have missed if I hadn’t moved.

It’s so often true, isn’t it, that the change we resist or simply dislike

can be filled with new possibilities if we just trust the Lord.

And give ourselves time. And plenty of grace.

A healing time. Time to adjust. Time to refocus.

Remember we can trust Him with the changes.

We can look for His presence when all around is different.

We can look up and choose to believe

in bright tomorrows

and new songs.

Draw near to Him and He will draw near to you.

So let God work His will in you. Yell a loud no to the Devil and watch him scamper. Say a quiet yes to God and He’ll be there in no time. Quit dabbling in sin. Purify your inner life. Quit playing the field. Hit bottom, and cry your eyes out. The fun and games are over. Get serious, really serious. Get down on your knees before the Master; it’s the only way you’ll get on your feet. James 4:8 The Message

So if you are facing a transition right now

please know that I care and that there are tools to learn and skills to develop

that will make any change easier.

Contact me at [email protected]

Anchored- Finding Hope In Difficult Times

Her voice at the other end of the phone gasped for breath

 as she shared with me the painful story of her husband’s sudden leaving.

My heart ached as I listened to her story.

Whether you’re dealing with marriage difficulties,

sudden illness, grief and loss, relationship struggles, etc.

they oftentimes can leave you gasping for breath

with no idea where to turn.

Where is the hope when your world is turned upside down?

Where can you turn when the bottom literally falls out of your lives?

What do you do when everything seems hopeless?

My mind wanders back a few years ago when life hit me with an unexpected jolt.

There was nothing to do – the storm hit before I knew what was happening.

Prayers were reduced to silent pleas for help

   since I had no words.

That’s right.

No words at all.

But in the midst of the storm I remembered something.

Someone cared.

God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble – Psalm 46:1

I could not see God. I heard no voices. Saw no writing in the sky.

But I knew He was with me. Right there. And I clung to Him as my Help in trouble.

Clung with everything I had.

Like an anchor in the midst of a literal storm

 God held me and kept me safe.

One day at a time.

Muddling through. But never alone.

You see, it makes all the difference when you are experiencing difficulties

to know that you are not alone.

And that there is hope.

Matter of fact, even better than there being hope

He is our Hope.

Yes, then and everyday He continues to be my ever present Hope.

And as that broken woman reached out to me to pour out her wounded heart

 and even in the telling she is anchored

I continue to pray to the One Who loves with an ever-lasting Love

and find the continual Anchor of my soul in Him.

   The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run into it and are safe. Proverbs 18:10

Strong Comfort.

Unchanging Help in a changing world

Powerful Hope

    that stands immovable in the face of every storm.

Do you know Him as your Unchanging One in a changing world?