Category Archives: Life Coaching

Sometimes It Hurts

Every change involves letting go of what has been

to embrace the new.

Now I don’t know about you but that’s sometimes been a process for me.

Letting go of the beautiful pink flowered bedroom in Kansas City

for the ugly yellow bedroom in Owego.

But it didn’t take me long to get it repainted.

Saying good bye to one career to start another.

Memories of that long walk down the school hall one day

a few years ago.

Lump in my throat. Tears stinging my eyes.

Alone.

The only sound – that of my high heels on the floor.

The end of a most enjoyable season of my life.

Yes.

Sigh.

To start building a small private counseling practice.

Something I had no background in.

But to do it I had to be all in.

Invested.

Committed to helping the people I served.

Letting go of the comfortable and familiar to embrace the strange and the new.

Every change involves letting go of what has been to take hold of the new.

Not easy.

Many times involving a season of grieving.

Although I had prayed and thought it through

the selling of my beloved white cape cod house

to move a long way away

was very difficult.

The actual time of signing the papers and pulling that door closed the last time

was painfully  hard.

But through it all God was there.

He smooths the rough places and gives strength to the weary.

He leads us gently from one place to the next.

From one season of life to another one.

There’s a time to let go

And a time to embrace.

  There’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth:..A right time to hold on and another to let go. Ecclesiastes 3:1,2 Msg

Like a child clinging to his favorite toy

I’ve sometimes been guilty of clinging tightly to what I’ve had and enjoyed

so tightly that it was hard to imagine ever feeling at peace again.

But the truth is I eventually was.

Each season has its own color, its own fragrance, its own song.

Let God have that cherish toy you are grasping to yourself

and trust Him to provide for your next season of life too

He will not fail you. He understands.

Every change involves letting go of what has been

to embrace the new.

Don’t miss the new because of fear of change.

Place your hand in His Big Loving Hand.

He is Faithful.

 

It’s Your Turn Now

 

March Madness has brought lots of hooping and hollering at our home.

Yay UVA!

Holding our breath- cheering them on.

But it’s easy to watch the teams play. From the comfort of my home.

Sitting on the couch. Groaning at times.

But I knew it took a lot of skill and practice to bring them to that place.

Lots of skills.

It’s one thing to know that but another thing to shoot hoops yourself.

This morning my daughter and I went out and threw basketballs.

I won’t tell you how many years since I’ve tried to make a basket.

But let’s just say it’s been a few years.

It  took me back to high school gym class when I loved getting a basket.

 Get the basket in view and shoot it. Easy. Not at all.

Smile. Well today I started out tentative.

Stretching to make a basket.

Trying again and again.

Aware that what I’d been seeing on TV during the playoffs

Was much harder- much harder than it looked.

I was thrilled when I finally got a basket.

Overjoyed. Not by skill but I think just luck.

Back and forth we played

 getting better as time went by.

Oh, not real good but better.

A few went in and some didn’t make it.

Easier to watch than to play.

Its true, isn’t it?

It’s all too easy to critique from the couch- whether it’s basketball, or a speaker, or musician.

But when we step up and move in to actually do it ourselves

we are suddenly faced with the challenges.

Practice is important. Having a coach makes a huge difference.

I don’t know about you but I loved shooting hoops today.

I came away invigorated and alive and have already planned to go back.

But more than the fun of playing today

I came aware with a fresh sense of how much skill it takes to play

a whole game

with other players all around you

to get a rebound

to steal the ball

to keep focused.

And my admiration for the basketball players is high.

What about you?

Maybe it’s time to shoot a few hoops,

or try something you might not have done for a while

if ever.

Step out of your comfort zone and stretch.

You just might come away with a new appreciation for what others do too.

Let’s be doers – not critical spectators.

Working to understand and encourage.

 

Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you are a listener when you are anything but, letting the Word go in one ear and out the other. Act on what you hear! Those who hear and don’t act are like those who glance in the mirror, walk away, and two minutes later have no idea who they are, what they look like. James 1:22-25 Message

 

Moving? Again?

From as far back as I can remember

I haven’t liked change.

Oh, I know that change is a part of life

but change for changes sake — count me out.

Time after time growing up I experienced

 that unexpected

  gut-wrenching pain of moving.

“Sharon, we are moving the end of the month. You’re last day in school will be _____.”

Gulp.

Again and again I had to say good- by to my schoolmates

to head off in another direction.

Even though after a while I should have gotten used to it

I never did.

Probably my hardest move was right before going into sixth grade.

Owego, NY.

I didn’t want to move there and didn’t want to leave there 12 years later.

Smile.

But let me tell you how my stay there began.

We lived out of a motel for the first few weeks

waiting to find a home.

Yes, got on the bus in the morning and was dropped off at the motel in the afternoon.

All 5 of us. In one room. For weeks.

But that all came to an end when we moved into the house on the big curve.

Trains shaking my bed in the middle of the night.

Blowing the horn so I thought the world was coming to an end.

Change can be so hard.

But in time. Yes, after months and years I discovered in Owego – my home.

I made friends and enjoyed high school so very much.

Precious memories that I would have missed if I hadn’t moved.

It’s so often true, isn’t it, that the change we resist or simply dislike

can be filled with new possibilities if we just trust the Lord.

And give ourselves time. And plenty of grace.

A healing time. Time to adjust. Time to refocus.

Remember we can trust Him with the changes.

We can look for His presence when all around is different.

We can look up and choose to believe

in bright tomorrows

and new songs.

Draw near to Him and He will draw near to you.

So let God work His will in you. Yell a loud no to the Devil and watch him scamper. Say a quiet yes to God and He’ll be there in no time. Quit dabbling in sin. Purify your inner life. Quit playing the field. Hit bottom, and cry your eyes out. The fun and games are over. Get serious, really serious. Get down on your knees before the Master; it’s the only way you’ll get on your feet. James 4:8 The Message

So if you are facing a transition right now

please know that I care and that there are tools to learn and skills to develop

that will make any change easier.

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