Category Archives: fear and anxiety

Want Confidence?

So what do you think?

Is it possible to grow in confidence?

To really change?

Many folks will tell you yes and share stories of how they are different today.

How did they do it? Well let me share with you one way.


Hm, that’s a big word but it’s easy to understand.

Begin to picture yourself as you’d like to be.

Yes, get a clear idea, for instance, of how you see yourself confident and full of courage.

Smile. That’s quite a picture isn’t it?

Years, many years ago, I ran for Student Council Treasurer in high school.

At the time I was very quiet and didn’t want any attention but I did want to serve my high school class.

I did want to be available to help others.

But to get the office

    I had to win a school election.

That involved giving a speech to the whole school.

Dear me, I remember even today my overwhelming fears as I practiced and practiced that speech.

But in addition to going over the words I also imagined myself winning.

Yes, as I prayed, I began to see myself hearing that I had won and taking my place with others I looked up to.

I saw myself giving that speech with heart and pouring myself into the delivery.

I saw myself even to the colors I dressed in that day.

Somehow that visualization worked in a powerful way.

Seeing myself as successful worked far better than seeing myself as a failure.

And yes, I won. But the real win was in discovering that when God calls you to do something

He Himself enables you to do it.

He is your Strength within.

Visualize yourself performing that very thing that causes you to be afraid.

Visualize yourself succeeding.

As you pray give it all to the One Who loves you.

Speak words of truth and confidence to yourself.

Trust Him and He will bring it to pass.


Being confident of this very thing, that He which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ. Philippians 1:6

Take Charge of Your Anxiety

 Yes, it might surprise you but I’m going to ask anyway.

What would happen if you could control your brain and decrease your anxiety?

Without pills?

Here’s why I’m asking.

Studies have shown that the brain can be changed causing ones anxiety to decrease.

Sound too good to be true?

Keep reading.

During periods of high stress and anxiety what happens to your hands?

If you are anything like me, your hands get colder.

Right? Have you noticed?

Brain science teaches us that when under stress the blood rushes to the brain

    leaving the hands colder.

If one intentionally warms their hands by putting them in warm water

  or holding a warm cup of coffee, tea or hot chocolate

the blood goes from the brain –where it’s been working hard due to the stress-

 and returns back to the hands

reducing anxiety.

How would you feel if you could begin to reduce your anxiety?

Well, you can.

Focus on hand warming.

Some other ideas are warming hands in front of a fire, putting on warm gloves,

    holding a partner’s skin

yes, the ideas are endless

 but the principle is the same.

Warm hands draw the blood from the anxious brain away from the brain

   and back down to the hands.

There are certainly other ways to calm the limbic brain and relax your system

  such as prayer, meditation, focusing on your breathing, etc.

 but hand warming is one more overlooked practical tool that you can do.

Now. Today.

You can take charge of your stress.



Taking Charge

I know it might sound ridiculous but I’ll ask anyway.

What would happen if every time you had a worrisome thought you could just burst it

     like a balloon?

Here’s the reason I’m asking.

Life can be difficult. Problems can arise unexpectedly.

Brain science research shows that our thoughts create chemicals.

Every bad thought releases chemicals that make you feel bad.

Every good thought releases chemicals that make you feel good.

You do not need to believe every thought you have – oftentimes thoughts lie.

You have to take control.

The problem is that we usually think we have no control over our thoughts.

How would you feel, though, if you had a plan?

    A specific tool that you could use to burst those negative, anxious thoughts?

Well here’s an idea that has helped many folks.

Challenge those thoughts.

Yes, ask these questions-

    Is it true?

    Can I absolutely know it’s true?

    How do I feel when I have this thought?

    What would I be without this thought?

     Turn the thought around. Is that turnaround thought true? Is it even more true

         than the original thought?

Yes, you can learn to talk back to your thoughts.

Don’t believe every thought you have.

Burst those thought balloons by challenging them and asking those questions.

If you focus on what is true it will make all the difference in how you feel.

Sound good?

Give it a try and let me know how it goes for you.


Think on whatever is true, honorable, right, pure, excellent, good, worthy of praise-

Let your mind dwell on these things. (Philippians 4:8)