Monthly Archives: January 2012

Is That A Need Or A Want?

Children just know they want it. Parents must teach them the difference between a need and a want.

How about you? Are you discerning the difference between needs and wants in your own life?

I want peace. I work for peace. I teach skills on ways to build peace within and without.

But do I need peace? No, I need the God of Peace.

I want good health. I work for health. I eat with health in mind. Well, usually. I exercise seeking to promote health. But do I need health? No, but it sure does make a difference in life.

I want healthy relationships. I work for them.  I teach skills in how to develop and grow healthy relationships and how to reduce toxicity.

But all to often my best attempts seem woefully inadequate and I am left needing to accept the choices of another.

Needs and wants.

It’s important to distinguish the difference.

Before you spend huge amounts of time and energy on a want that you might never satisfy, ask yourself this question. Is it a need or a want?

If it’s a want maybe its time to step back and re-evaluate the situation.

If it’s a genuine need, maybe it’s time to move up your efforts.

  1. Ask yourself if it’s a need or a want. Pray about it.
  2. Redirect your energy into a more productive area. Be realistic. Accept your humanness. Listen to what the Lord is saying.
  3. Consult and develop the skills you need in order to become more successful

in satisfying your needs. Pray for wisdom. Consult a coach.

 Knowing what you really need will give your life a greater sense of purpose, peace and passion.


How Can I Sing When I’ve Lost All Hope?


She looked at me with tears coursing down her cheeks.

“After all I’ve been through, I just don’t know how to go on.”
Her life was a story of tragedy and loss. Her husband had left her with three young children. Their home had burnt down and on top of it she had just lost her job.

“I used to believe.” She said twisting the tissue in her hand. “Yes, I used to tell others

that they would be alright. But I honestly have lost all hope.”

We spoke for a long time that day.

It didn’t seem to make sense. But then sometimes life doesn’t.

I had no profound words to offer. No quick fix to suggest.

But I gave her what I could.


Hope that something would change. That she would see her well in the desert as Hagar did. You can read the story in Genesis 16. Hagar had fled with her son and was watching her son die. She had no hope. But then God stepped in.


When God steps in everything changes.

Fevers drop. Cancers disappear. Money appears from nowhere. A job is offered from a seemingly impossible source. A prodigal child calls home.

Yes, there is always hope.


He is with you right now. Longing to comfort you.  Breathing within you fresh courage

and a new song.


Remembering that causes me to sing this morning.

Look not at how things are today. No, look into the face of the One Who still calms the storms and places wells in the deserts.


Be encouraged, my friend. There is always hope.


“May the God of hope, fill you with all joy and peace as you believe…” Romans 15:13


Dare To Believe


Failure is not fatal. Do you believe that? It’s the courage to continue that is the most important. Winston Churchill said that and his words remind us today of the power of what we believe.

No matter what we say, our beliefs are revealed by our actions.

“You can do it,” he cheered me “but it wasn’t until I chose to ride the horse that I learned that I really could do it.”

I had to take a step. It was my choice.

Although lots of voices told me tales of success and also stories of mishaps, I had to choose to believe that I could learn to ride a horse.

Yes, and I can still feel the wonder of the hair in my face as I eventually learned to not only ride with confidence but also jump.


What do you believe today?

“Is anything to hard for the Lord?” (Gen.18:14)

What’s preventing you from moving forward in your life?

Fears, doubts, tapes from the past, discouragement in the present.

Whatever it is, maybe its time to reconsider it.

Look at it this way, if you knew that you could be successful, would you?

The way you answer that is so telling.

There are so many things that I have done, that I never thought I’d be able to do

Adoption, single parenting, changing careers, riding horses, getting published, giving a speech. Oh, the list could go on and on.

But I chose to believe in a Power beyond myself.

What about you?

Place your hand in His and get ready to experience the Impossible.

Get out the saddle, fill out the form, write the book, take that photo, join the exercise group, and call a coach. Say Yes, to what you can do. Trust Him for the rest.